Fear of Emotional Closeness Part Three: Being Hurt if You Lose Your Friend, Being Overwhelmed by Intense Feelings, or Having the Other Person Become Needy Towards You

For Part Three of the Fear of Emotional Closeness series, I will focus on the fear of being hurt if you lose a friendship, the consternation of having to experience the overwhelming and intense feelings of closeness, and the apprehension of having your friend start to “cling” to and become needy towards you.   Fear […]

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Fear of Emotional Closeness Part Two: Being Influenced, Being Disappointed, and Being Exposed and Vulnerable

In this part of the Fear of Emotional Closeness series, I will address the fears of being influenced by someone, being disappointed by or disappointing them, and being exposed and vulnerable to this someone.   Being Influenced   You might be afraid of growing emotionally close to somebody, because you worry that they will influence […]

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Satisfying Friendships, Emotional or Intellectual Connection, and Emotional Closeness

You may have heard of the much praised and desirable ideal, a “satisfying relationship,” or a “great relationship.”  But what does this mean exactly?  Here are some of my thoughts.  Firstly, there should be happiness in the relationship, where there are many more positive moments than negative ones.  The friends should show mutual respect and […]

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For and Against Fame

Friends have asked me why I don’t want to be famous.  Leila (all names are pseudonyms here) thought it would be awesome if I could be a bestselling writer like J.K. Rowling.  Leila didn’t understand that stardom wasn’t what I was aiming for.   Another friend, Fanny, believed that everyone wanted to be famous, so she […]

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