12 Tips for Speaking with Diplomacy

For years I’ve been fascinated by the art of diplomacy, how to say even difficult things with sensitivity and respect, how to be gentle, indirect, but also clear.  After observing some very tactful people around me, and doing many experiments myself, I’ve gathered a number of tips on how to speak with tact. These tips […]

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Fear of Emotional Closeness Part Two: Being Influenced, Being Disappointed, and Being Exposed and Vulnerable

In this part of the Fear of Emotional Closeness series, I will address the fears of being influenced by someone, being disappointed by or disappointing them, and being exposed and vulnerable to this someone.   Being Influenced   You might be afraid of growing emotionally close to somebody, because you worry that they will influence […]

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Fear of Emotional Closeness Part One: Becoming Attached, Dependent, Needy, or Weak

One reason some folks may be afraid of emotional closeness, is because they’re scared that they will become attached, dependent, needy, and weak.  But what does being attached, dependent and all that really mean?   Neediness, Dependence, and Excessive Emotional Attachment   For starters, “neediness,” emotional attachment, or dependence, might be about contacting the friend […]

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For and Against Fame

Friends have asked me why I don’t want to be famous.  Leila (all names are pseudonyms here) thought it would be awesome if I could be a bestselling writer like J.K. Rowling.  Leila didn’t understand that stardom wasn’t what I was aiming for.   Another friend, Fanny, believed that everyone wanted to be famous, so she […]

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